Your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to break free from this low confidence so you can accomplish the success you deserve once and for all.
This is how you can start right now…
Know Your Own Value
If you don’t know it already, take a little time to discover that you are more than the sums of your parts. We all have strengths, weaknesses, knowledge, and talents. Some people are fortunate enough to have outright gifts they choose to share with others. It’s not a lack of experience or ability that is holding you back. It is, however, a lack of confidence. Until you understand the gifts you bring to the table, you’re going to struggle with self-confidence.
Take a pad of paper and write down the answers to these questions:
- What are my strengths in my current job? What do people come to you for before anyone else? What do you get compliments on?
- What do you enjoy in your current work? Think about all areas of your working day including the social aspect.
Find Ways to Improve Your Value
Some people choose to focus on eliminating the negatives but that isn’t always the best choice. It takes far more time to eliminate negative tendencies or overcome knowledge deficiencies than it would to improve your skills and talents and hire someone to tackle the tasks where you are less skilled. For instance, if you have a real gift for empathizing with people but aren’t as gifted at keeping your finances in order, hire a bookkeeper to work part time handling those tasks while you develop your talents to grow your business.
Take some time to think about your value and where it could be best spent. If you need some help, answer these questions:
- Make a list of skill/knowledges your business/work is lacking in.
- Be realistic, can you personally fulfill these skills/knowledge gap within 4 weeks? If not, why not? Is it because of lack of time, money, knowledge?
Your value in your business is immeasurable. You are better off spending time and effort on the things that move your business forward and where you provide value. Go back through your list of areas that your business in lacking. Circle the ones that you will not be able to fulfill and find someone else who can.
Invest in Yourself
For the areas that you feel you should be tackling -Take a class/course to help you develop the skills you need to grow as a person and as a business owner. If you lack self-confidence, taking classes or having a coach will help you grow your confidence. Knowledge, as they say, is power. Classes help you not only gain knowledge but also develop your talents and interests so you can accomplish impressive things with your business. Plus, you never know who you will meet on these courses and classes, you could find an accountability partner, new business contact or client.
Eliminate Negative Self-Talk
Finally, mute the voices inside your head that feed your doubts and fears. If you can’t turn them off, drown them out with positive affirmations, building yourself up, and reminding yourself of all you’ve accomplished until now – and that you’re not finished yet!
Conquering low self-confidence is all about changing the narrative in your mind. Once you’ve mastered that, you’ll open yourself up to greater success.
When I start to feel negative about my abilities and start doubting my goals and ambitions I start to journal. I write down a list of all my jobs in chronological order and by each job I write what I learnt, what I achieved, what surprised me and any fears I overcame. When I finish, I read them through and can see how far I have come since leaving school, how each job shaped me and how I changed, grew and evolved into who I am now.